I recently spent a lot of time asking the question, what makes rock stars more successful than other people? From all the research I conducted I boiled it down to some basics, they usually have a God-given talent and they spend all their free time honing their craft. I would go even further and say that they also have tons of passion and an unwavering desire to be discovered. When I look at the average person I notice that most of them lack passion, desire and focus but all of them have God-given talent.
The problem then lies, in my opinion, with not being able to identify their unique talent. Usually this is because they feel that the things that come naturally to them aren’t so special. Maybe nobody told them they had a special skill. It could also be that they couldn’t find a way to make money with that particular talent fast enough. So instead they went to college to learn something that would pay the bills. How many times have we heard the stories of parents telling their children that they should give up on their dreams lest they become “starving artists”?
I do believe that we are always exactly where we are supposed to be at any given time. I wanted to be a rock star but what I lacked was talent. It was not my lot in life to sing or even play an instrument as I tried several and never found practice to be fun or enjoyable. My parents laughed at us and my mother ultimately told me to take typing so I would always have something to fall back on.
It may have taken several years in many different jobs and industries to figure out what my natural talents are, but luckily I was able to see a common thread. I now ask my clients to look back at their different jobs and see if they can see a pattern. Is there something that they were always asked to do because they were so naturally good at it? Do people come to them with questions about a certain thing over and over again? What were some of the things that they would stay up late into the night doing just because it was rewarding to them? Usually answering these questions will unlock their true passions and God-given talents. This is where they should be putting their energy.
I will guarantee that anyone who first finds what it is that they were meant to do, then spends every chance they get honing their skills around that one thing will be super successful. Because when you are working on something that you truly love and you throw yourself into it completely you will be discovered!
If you are interested in getting some ideas of how to Plan 2016 Like a Rock Star, check out my video here!
Thanks to the internet we now have the ability to access thousands of online training programs, videos and tutorials on just about any skill you want to learn. This can be a bit of a double edged sword for some. Yes, now we can all be quasi-experts in everything from quantum physics to psychiatry, but where do we draw the line? I am someone who has spent my entire life learning everything I can about whatever it is that I am doing. Like learning as much as I could about Multiple Sclerosis when I worked for a biotech company as an administrative assistant to learning every new social media platform and software product that has come out since I started my first virtual assistant company. Of course now as a business coach I am finishing up my certification and learning as much as I possibly can about helping people create and achieve goals. But there comes a time when you have to decide when you have enough training to go out and get clients.
This is where coaching changed the whole game for me.
Have you ever met someone who is extremely bright, well educated and well informed but can’t seem to ever get ahead? This may be a friend, colleague, family member or even yourself. Truth be told, this was me a few years ago. I had tons of knowledge, my finger on the pulse of technology and a I knew more than I needed to know about marketing and social media. I still was only making barely enough to get by. I then discovered the missing piece; I needed accountability, support and help sorting through all the great ideas in my head. My coach worked with me to see that it wasn’t knowledge or skills I was lacking, it was something different. I first needed to recognize my unique strengths and my past successes to see that I was capable of accomplishing what I was setting out to do. Then together we broke up my big ideas into small action steps that I could actually complete without feeling overwhelmed. This was an ongoing process because there were many days that I would slip back into my old thinking and want to give up on myself. Sometimes I wouldn’t want to call my coach because I was feeling like a failure, but it never failed, I would get off the phone feeling like I could conquer the world again.
So how about you?
Is it more classes and telesummits and tutorials and videos that you need or is it someone to help you see what is really holding you back? Again, I will say that I value education and believe that being certified in your area of expertise is valuable. My point is, please don’t let your lack of certification stop you from recognizing your personal and professional value. Taking very intentional action towards a clear goal is the key to business success.
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