I had an epiphany this morning. On the back of my business cards I have a message printed that reads “97% of American’s don’t write out their goals… Join the 3% of people who are achieving GREATNESS!” and I include 3 lines for people to write out their goals. Well, yesterday I attended the MA Conference For Women like I do every year.
This year I had a booth and it was not in the best place, it was very hidden, but I was a late entry and I accepted that. I was positioned at one of the two entrances of the grand ballroom where breakfast and lunch was served and the keynote speakers presented. Seemed like a great location at first… but I noticed as the sessions let out that no one was interested in the booth right outside the door, they were checking their phones for any missed messages or chatting with their colleagues about the speakers. As they all rushed off to the next session I watched them. 10,000 women from all walks of life. Each with their own priorities, missions and life styles. The majority of them had jobs, many with the huge companies that support the conference through sponsorships. The security of having a job with a large company was enough for most of them. For some it was not, many I talked with felt there was something else for them but they couldn’t put a finger on it.
This morning I was planning my day, something Brian Tracy said I should have done last night, but better late than never. I looked at the list of my fellow exhibitors. There were probably 400 or so, I would say less than half were solopreneurs like myself. There were about 100 speakers.
I went into my kitchen and noticed my 1st grader had left his homework on the table. The homework that was due today and that he had worked hard to complete. I didn’t have a second thought, I put on my coat and drove to the school to drop it off. One of the reasons I wanted to start my own business was for this reason, to put my kids first.
While I was in my car on the way back from school, I started thinking about the 300 women out of 10,000 who were in action yesterday, really putting themselves out there. I was one of them. I was one of the 3%. See what setting goals can do?
Okay, today I had to be a conference super early. I left a bit later than I wanted and I got stuck in Boston traffic. I took a tip from yesterday’s post and listened to a seminar by my favorite mentor, Brian Tracy. Wow!! What a gift to use that time to re-learn these ways to overcome procrastination.
I believe that setting goals in your personal life is super important. How we do in our business or career life has everything to do with how successful we feel as people. Remember, you are not defined by “what you do”. What you do is just part of who you are.
A great way to start out on this adventure is to write your personal mission statement. What are your values? For example are you committed to family first, career advancement, health and well being, to be kind, or generous? The list of possibilities is huge, but pick 3 top ones. From you values create a one sentence statement about how you want to live your life or what you would like to be your legacy after you are gone. An example may be, “I will live my life in such a way that my family knows I cherish them, my friends know I appreciate them and the business world looks to me as a mentor.”
Now, from you personal mission statement you can begin to set goals to help you achieve that aim. Make sure they are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time-bound (SMART).
Talk to you tomorrow!
I love listening to anything Brian Tracy has to say. It is hard to believe that this super, successful man came from very humble beginnings and was actually a high school drop out. By being extremely curious about what makes some people successful and some failures he found the answers. One of the answers he found was goal setting. Mr. Tracy teaches that not only must your goals be laid out in such a way that they are crystal clear, but that your thinking must be clear of negative emotions that may hamper your progress.
I recently read this example in Success Magazine that suggests we have a lot of control over our emotions. Two people in two separate cars are sitting in traffic. One person is steaming mad and can think about nothing other than how late he is. The other person decides to take this extra time to listen to audio books, since there is nothing he can do about it. You can see from this example that when we take a deep breath and remove negative emotions from the picture we can achieve so much more. Guy number one probably just increased his chances for a heart attack and guy number two may have had an aha moment that changed his future!
Our amazing subconscious mind has the power to help us reach our goals very efficiently, almost without us even knowing it. That same subconscious mind can also keep us stuck. Our subconscious believes everything we tell it. If you continuously say, “I cannot afford it” then guess what, you can’t afford it. Mr. Tracy says that wealthy people dwell on financial freedom while poor people think only of what they don’t or can’t have. We attract what we think about. By thinking positive thoughts we are going to get positive results.
I will probably refer to Brian Tracy again during this series, I admire his simple, no nonsense approach to being successful.
Okay it is December 1st and we have 31 days until January 1st. So I decided to get all you last minute goal setters ready for the new year. I believe it is not too late to set some fabulous goals and start 2015 off with a bang!
Over the course of this month I will be posting everyday. Some posts will be inspirational, some will be resources to help you in setting your goals and some will be stories or advice from people who know about goal setting and achieving.
Today I want to talk about YOUR WHY. This is a tricky one. When most people think of setting their goals they overlook this one valuable requirement. Your goal has to fit into your life’s purpose, or chances are it won’t happen.
Important things to note when looking for your why…
- Your Why is not the same as your what. Your what may be losing 25 pounds. Your why goes deeper. I want to lose 25 pounds because I haven’t worn skinny jeans since I had my children. I would feel great about myself if I could do that.
- Your Why is not always politically correct. Don’t feel bad if your why is not “to contribute to world peace”. Your why is personal and it may include other people. It may not.
- What do you Desire? Desire gets a bad wrap in our society. People sometimes swap the word desire with sex. You may desire sex, that’s not a bad thing, but desire is more. Desire is what makes life worth living. Without desire you probably wouldn’t even bother going to work in the morning. What do you desire? That is going to get your closer to your why.
I hope this is helpful. Please take a few minutes right now to write down YOUR WHY and YOUR DESIRES. You will be glad you did.
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